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tonight sees the sstart of a programme on the bbc folloing a group of midwives and highlighting the traumas etc of childbirth. one of the programmes apparently follows a family where three of the daughters, aged .. wait for it .. 16, 14, and 12, all have had babies. And in an interview with the BBC, the mother said that it wasn't her fault, that she didn't agree with the fact they'd all had babies, but that it was all the fault of the schools for not providing proper sex education. So, who's responsible! after all, it's true to say that schools should provide sex education, but shouldn't that also come from the parents? how can a mother sit there and say none of this is her fault .. where was she after all, while her, what would have have been 11 year old, was off having sex!
I do not think that the mother should just sit back and say that she wasn't to blame. Parents are supposed to guide their children and show them what is morally right or wrong. Though schools may teach their students about sex education, they should not be blamed for the parents' negligence in not keeping a sharp look on their children. Personally, when my kids hit 10 years old, I am going to let them know the ins and outs of being responsible with taking care of their body.
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It's the mothers fault, because if you depend on schools to teach your children basic things, you're obviously unfit to be a parent. Yes Schools should be providing adiquet sex education, but surely, if your child starts dating people, it is your responsibility to teach them the basics.
Ignorance, a lack of parental responsibility, and maturity on the part of the mother..you may find she had her children early, and see's nothing wrong in letting her daughters behave like sluts...
The parent shouldn't be blaming the school for her not watching her daughters. Yes, it is good when the school can teach sex education, but reguardless of that, she's the first teacher they'll ever have, so she should've talked to them about sex, and most importanttly, she should've been more responsible in watching them, knowing who their friends are, etc.
Leilani
After all the "mother" has absolutely no proof that her daughters ever attened the classes, they may have been busy increasing their knowledge courtesy of these teenage studs and their infantile friends....
well, wouldn't one think that, when the first daughter fell pregnant, the mother would do everything to try and ensure the other two didn't go down the same road? after all, the other two discovered they were pregnant shortly after the first baby was born, so she had nine months to bring home the fact that having a baby at 12, 14 or 16 is definitely not a good idea.
I'd hazard a guess that she cares very little for these children and her neglect has all but destroyed, their self esteem, I know its a provocative thing to say but these girls are a paedophile's dream..and in great danger of being raped if they haven't been already...
well, dunnow about that, it'd be interesting to know though how old she was when she had her first child, it is often said that such paterns of behavior repeat themselves - not uncommon to hear of a young girl having a baby at 15 and then becoming a grandmother at age 30 when her 15 year old daughter becomes pregnant.. scary, when I was 15, I couldn't think of anything i wanted less than to have a baby, lol.
In this metro-Detroit area where I live it is not uncommon for girls to be “mothers” at 14 years of age with the cycle being repeated generation after generation. One prevailing thot as I have listened in on some of the young girls discussions has been basically to the effect of, “now that I got my baby I am grown.” The only thing is that as a young girl has the baby it is not she rather more so her mother or more so her own grandmother that will raise the newest one born so that the baby will be raised basically by it’s grand or even great grand mother. For many young girls they want to have a baby and I think it is with the thot of having someone to love them as many come from broken homes or homes where there has been child abuse, etc. and not realizing all the responsibilities that is entailed in raising a child. With many of the young girls and given that they are “dating” many times 2-4 or more fellows at a time of being impregnated, the guy that is the father of their baby is not known unless the various DNA tests are preformed. Then too with one young girl I know the father of her baby was into various gang related activities and at the time of the baby’s birth (the girl was 15 in this case) the guy was serving time in jail. Most young girls in this area will not consider having an abortion nor is placing the baby up for adoption considered. Then there are some I know who by the time they are 23 years of age they have had at least 3 abortions and that is the ONLY method of Birth Control they will consider using!!! As far as educators teaching safe sex we just recently had a situation where in the local high school this past year the assistant to the gym teacher who was hired by the school district and whose job in part was to help teach on these matters was rather found to be fondling young boys and raped at least one of the teenage boys. The dad of one of the teenage boys that was fondled turned in this male assistant to the authorities. The supertentent of the school board was like all put out and saying, “I just don’t understand how anything like this could happen.” Talk about stupidity. I commend the teen that went and told his dad and GOOD it was that this family had open communication to where this teen knew he could go to his dad about any matter at all, that he would be listened to. It was after this report that the others who had been fondled, etc. came forward. Another view that is expressed that why some mothers do not encourage their daughters against having babies at an early age is due to the fact of keeping the cycle of welfare going what with the various financial dollars received of govt./agencies for under-aged girls having babies. There has not been the necessary incentatives to get off the welfare rolls.
cg you make some very valid points. I've seen a lot of these young girls on the chat shows, saying they want a baby, because when they have a baby it will love them and be theirs ... etc. And the reality is, that you never know just how much responsibility a baby is, until you have one for yourself. The point about welfare is also a very good one - in this country though, the government will provide a council house to a young unmarried mother, so a lot of these girls see getting pregnant as a way to get a house of their own. My mother works as a doctors receptionist, and all too often she says she has heard the young girls talking to each other in the waiting room saying "if I have another baby, then they'll give me a bigger house!".
I've watched so many of these exploitative shows,and seen far too many of these neglected children, and it's clear that they are crying out for love and attention, though why they assume a baby will provide that I can't imagine......
something drastic needs to be done to help these girls, before they end up in the hands of an abusive boyfriend/ husband or worse...
I am not familiar with the term, Council House or all what it entails. Here in the States we have what is called section-8 housing. A person will pay approx. 20-30% of their income. It is a great way for a young couple to start out and also there are various senior citizen apartment complexes that are able to take advantage of the section-8 or also a term used is low-income-housing. True to form in what you are saying in that this section-8 housing like your Council Houses, well, the young mother with more children becomes eligible for a larger housing/apartment unit. Like for a couple or a senior citizen a one-bed-room would be provided. With one child, then a 2-bedroom. With an additional child if other than the same sex of the first child then goes to a 3-bedroom unit. Given too that due to generation after generation having babies at such young ages then oft times the grandmother is really quite young herself so if she is the one who takes on the responsibility of the newest grandchild then there is no incentive for her to go out and seek employment for she gets on the reaping end of the benefits received for the newest life born into the family. The cycle at times can be never ending. Some are born on welfare and then are sustained on it all their lives. I personally have not a problem with tax dollars going into the various programs as help is provided at times most needed. Sometimes dire emergencies happen and good to know funds are available. It is just when the seemingly misuse is present. Then again I suppose alot of this depends on education. Of there being a need to teach the importance of getting an education and not thinking, "Now I got my baby I'm grown," if you understand what I am saying..
well, the family in question were on tv yesterday, and it would now seem pretty glaringly obvious who is to blame - the mother admitted that she'd let her 12 year old daughter sleep with her boyfriend in her house! stupid cow! ...
The stupidity of some people!
quite. her argument was that she would rather her daughter was doing it where she knew she was, well, to a degree there is an argument in favour of that, but not at that age, at least wait till she's consenting! and perhaps is in a stable relationship? and at 12, I don't care how mature you are at 12, but at 12, you are most certainly not mature enough to be having sex! let alone a baby!
Here here! I think she should have taught her daughter to respect herself a little more. Then even at that age she most likely would have wanted to obstain for a little while. I would have educated my daughter on all the possible desieases that you can get and all of the dangers of it. The knowledge is enough to scare anyone...especially someone so young!